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What is a Sex & Intimacy Coach?

A sex & intimacy coach is a person that offers insights into your current erotic life. They can help you overcome your erotic barriers and move forward in your erotic journey, wherever that may be. Sex & intimacy coaches guide you towards practical application to improve your sex and intimate life. They offer a safe environment to explore shame, fears and fantasies.

Who is Sex & Intimacy Coaching for?

Sex & Intimacy coaching is for anyone that wants to improve their relationship to their sexuality, understand their eroticism, learn to connect to their partner or want to spice up their sex life. This form of coaching is for anyone that has a body and wants to learn new ways of exploring themselves.

What’s the difference between a sex therapist and sex & intimacy coach?

A sex therapist is a licensed mental health professional with an additional education in sexuality and sex topics. Their training can involve as little as 8 hours or more. They often look at a person’s childhood, past history and any traumas to help you understand how you arrived to where you are.

Sex coaches look at what is going on in the present moment and move clients forward toward their goal. A person’s past experience will often be a brief piece of the coaching if needed, to move the client forward.  Sex coaches guide you from where you are to where you want to be.

Will what I share remain confidential?

I work with a strict confidential code of conduct. Anything that happens in our sessions is confidential. No one will know you are working with me unless you share that information with that person. I do attend regular supervision with other licensed sex coaches to ensure best practice and none of your personal details are revealed.

I’m worried I don’t know how to have a conversation with my partner about our intimate life. How can I open the conversation?

Every couple is different in their communication style. This can be a potentially sticky subject to open. Find a time when you can both be present and not distracted, haven’t had any alcohol or under any other influences and away from the bedroom. Approach your partner with compassion and vulnerability. Speak from your point of view, using “I” statements, and steer clear of any accusatory / blaming language. Make the conversation one of wanting to be more deeply connected to them and one of curiosity (are they feeling disconnected too, how do they feel, what are their solutions).

I feel too much shame to attend one of your public events. What can I do instead?

I completely understand that stepping into this area of your life can feel a bit scary. If attending a live event feels too much out of your comfort zone you can book a Passionate Possibilities call to see if privately working together would be the right fit or if we’ve worked together before scheduling a private Milk & Honey Coaching call.

Do I have to have a partner in order to sign-up for a coaching package or attend a live event? Will I still benefit from your coaching?

You do not need to have a partner or be in a relationship to benefit from coaching or to attend an event*. Learning about your pleasure first is a remarkable step towards liberating your own sexual creative life force.
*Events for couples/partners are labelled as such.

I’ve been in a sexless marriage/relationship, what can I do?

First I’d like to thank you for your bravery in coming forward. I know this is not an easy place to be in. There isn’t a one size fits all solution. There are so many factors to take into account, like how long this has been happening, do both parties want to heal this and what is the health of the relationship. Please book in a Passionate Possibilities call where we can brainstorm your next steps.

I experience a lot of shame around sex. Can you help me?

Feeling shameful about sex is very common. I can help you, help yourself but only if you are ready. I have a variety of embodiment tools that can help you begin shedding and releasing your sex shame.

My partner isn’t as adventurous as me, what do you suggest?

The best way to approach a partner, especially an apprehensive one about trying new things is out of the bed and not during sex. Have a clear, open conversation about what you would like while taking the time to understand their fears. Take the time to find out what might be a real turn-on for them.

My partner wants to do things I’m not comfortable with?

Understanding what makes you feel uncomfortable about what your partner is suggesting may be the first step. Is it shame, guilt or lack of body confidence. Take the time to clearly communicate this with your partner. Be genuinely curious about understanding what your partner wants to do, understand their turn-on of that particular activity. Is there a way to create that turn-on differently? Is there a way to create a scenario you feel safe with? Always honour your ‘no’. And possibly use it as an opportunity to explore your discomfort.

Are you open to working with people who live alternative lifestyles and relationship models such as polyamory, nonmonagamy, kink etc and members of the LGBTQ community?

Yes, absolutely.

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•Sex, Intimacy & Erotic Blueprint™ Coach and Educator

Jamie
Honesty is the lubricant to connection in relation Honesty is the lubricant to connection in relationships. It's not always easy saying and naming the hard things. I have to work really hard at staying honest and not hiding away behind sarcasm, humour or just going quiet. AND when I show up, honestly with whatever 'thing' or  my partner does, it always draws us closer. 
The Relationship Dojo - Blue Belt, Essentials of connection, communication and coming together starts April 15th.

https://academyforintimacy.com/courses/

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If you've seen my other post about many couples ex If you've seen my other post about many couples experiencing Stagnancy Stew (lacklustre relationship dynamics) one thing you can do today is get curious. How can you learn something new about your partner? This is especially useful for those in longer relationships. The moment we stop being curious and surprised by our partners is the moment we step towards Stagnancy Stew. 

The Relationship Dojo - 6-Week Courses for Couples starts Thursday, Feb 25th. These courses will take you on a journey that will fan the flames of your desire for each other. 

https://academyforintimacy.com/courses/

#academyforintimacy #relationshipgoals #relationshiptools #relationshiptips #couples #rekindle #getcurious #romanticrelationships #couplescourse #relationshipcourse
Stagnancy Stew. That's my name for what many coupl Stagnancy Stew. That's my name for what many couples are experiencing at the moment. We're stuck at home. We're cooped-up. Some of us are up to our eyeballs in home learning with our children. It's winter. These are all some of the ingredients involved in Stagnancy Stew. AND there is light. There are other ingredients to make new recipes. Drum roll please. The Relationship Dojo. These are 6-week courses for couples designed to reignite  your relationship. The first one starts next Thursday, 25th Feb. so get your buns over to the course and check it out. Maybe you'll look as happy as this couple in the photo after! https://academyforintimacy.com/courses/

#academyforintimacy #relationship #relationshipadvice #couples #couplegoals #relationshiphelp #relationshipcoaching #helpforcouples
Come one, come all! The Great Connection Festival. Come one, come all!
The Great Connection Festival.
Online Sunday, May 31st
Three channels of connection, fun and something for everyone.
I'll be hosting an Intro to Erotic Blueprints talk at 15.20 BST.
All profits to a great charity.
Come play!! @ollysfuture @plightclub @roksoba @noughtyaf 
#eroticblueprint #onlinefestival #connection #onlineconnection #intimacy #movement #naturemedicine #dance #suicideprevention
It's not too late to join LOCKDOWN WOMAN with Jane It's not too late to join LOCKDOWN WOMAN with Jane and me tonight, 7-9PM BST. It will be a really powerful event with embodied enquiry to deeply support you during this unchartered time. As ever if dosh is problem, let us know. Link in bio.

#lockdownlife #womeninlockdown #embodiment #embodiedwoman #embodiedyogaprinciples #embodimentpractice #womensupportingwomen #womenempowerment #womenssexuality #online #onlineembodiment
Hope. That's what I have today. This thing we are Hope. That's what I have today.
This thing we are going through as a collective has been a lot like baptism by fire. 
The one thing that has really helped to keep bringing myself back to myself and be grounded is teaching/coaching/facilitating. It's like a gentle reminder of who I am and what I am here for. 
Finding ways back to the body to truly inhabit ourselves is as close to peace as any of us will truly ever get. IMO.

Embodiment for vulva owners - link in bio.

#hope #embodiment #embodiedtools #embodiedyogaprinciples #womenswork #womenempowerment #womensupportingwomen
Lockdown Women: How has this time changed your re Lockdown Women: 
How has this time changed your relationship to your sexuality? Are you feeling muted or numb? Or are you ravenous? 
Embodied enquiry into this, Sunday May 10, 7-9PM BST. Link in bio.

#lockdown #lockdownwoman #embodiedsexuality #embodiment #embodiedyogaprinciples #embodiedenquiry #womanempowerment #womensupportingwomen #embodiedwoman #onlineevent #embodimentonline
When my friends check in with me to see how I'm do When my friends check in with me to see how I'm doing, it feels like a trick question. On one level I'm absolutely fine and on another I'm deeply uncomfortable. I haven't seen my partner in 3 months, freedom to travel is looking like a thing of the past and like many, moving forward with my life with so many unknowns is like trying to catch a slippery fish. What I do know is that keeping in my body helps me. I also know that all my embodiment tools help me from losing my shit. If you're a vulva bodied person and want to traverse some of these lockdown challenges with me and Jane check the link in the bio.

#lockdown #relationshipsinlockdown #lockdownwoman #freedom #relationshiptools #embodiment #embodiedyogaprinciples #embodiedrelationships #embodiedwoman #embodiedwisdom #online #embodimentonline
I don't know about you, but I'm over this. Like re I don't know about you, but I'm over this. Like really over this. I was speaking to Jane Dancey today trying to find ways into pleasure. Anything. Like any way into pleasure. My body is just feeling so meh. It doesn't matter the amount of exercise, healthy food, well intentioned thoughts, it's just bleurgh. Jane and I will be exploring this and many other aspects of being in lockdown as a woman. Link in bio. This Sunday, 7-9PM BST. It's not like you have anywhere else to be, right?! ;-) #lockdown #lockdown2020 #lockdownwoman #womenempowerment #womenempoweringwomen #womensupportingwomen #womenssexuality #intimacy #loveinthetimeofcorona #relationshipgoals #online #zoom
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